FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIPS: MR. CARRY GREAVES

Being away from one’s family causes mental, emotional, and financial hardships. The trials that one’s family goes through to keep the family together may go unseen and unheard by many who don’t understand the importance of family dynamics. But through it all, day-in and day-out, they somehow manage to keep struggling to maintain as well as elevate their family ties with their loved ones who are many miles away from them. When it comes to family, the utmost respect and reverence has to be given despite how things may be. When we can come together as one, the foundation in which our families are built upon will never be severed.

The relationships that we have or try to create with someone should be done on the principles of honesty and patience which inevitably over a period of time will produce trust and unconditional support. When we start to believe that our significant other is in our lives for the sole purpose of pleasure, we are then devaluing the true worth of who he or she is. In order for us to grow together in time – communication and understanding has to be planted within the relationship in order to gain a better insight into each other.

When we are dishonest with one another, the pillars or mainstay that is holding the relationship together will begin to wane and eventually will fall apart. So, for us to help demystify the misconceptions that relationships can’t be built while we are away from one another, we have to be more than willing to work hard at developing the right ingredients, such as: (1) communication; (2) honesty; (3) trust; (4) patience; and (5) consideration. In this manner we will be able to sustain our friendship/relationships while being yet away from each other.

Family is clearly defined as a social unit that is comprised of man, woman and their offsprings. Family is extremely important because it gives us balance, warmth, support and motivation in dire times. When the base of the family starts to weaken due to the lack of love, guidance and sustenance that is needed in every family, it then becomes unproductive to a certain degree, especially to one’s self and the global community at hand.

Those within our families -- such as our mothers, sisters, grandmothers and wives -- play a major role in the development of our all around well being. But the most critical aspect of female/male relationships is when we can construct a proper setting where both parties can gravitate towards each other in harmony that will not demoralize into repulsive behavior or language.

But so many women today are very much disappointed with the relationships that they are presently in. In truth, many of us (men) have created an optical illusion (in our minds) that says, “We should misuse and abuse our significant other.” And many of us get this false sense of understanding of what a man is from many mediums – especially from television, where a number of women are portrayed in a deviant manner. And, in turn, we sustain this false sense of understanding by our actions and at1titude towards women. This is one of the main reasons why society is on the brink of failure. If our attitude and behavior does not begin to change for the better and we do not atone for the wrongs we’ve committed towards ourselves, family, and our significant other, then we cannot expect this world to become better.

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